Helping shape your children's behavior is a key part of being a parent. It can be difficult as well as rewarding. While at times it can be challenging, a few key principles can help. Modeling Behavior Children learn by watching everyone around them, especially their parents. When you use manners and good coping strategies, you teach your children to do the same. Point out sharing among adults . Children often feel that they are the only ones who have to "use your manners," "share," and "take turns." So when adults share, point it out to your children. For example: "Daddy is sharing his drink with Mommy. Good job sharing, Daddy!" Model good ways to calm down. Teach your children how to calm down when they are upset or frustrated. For example, if you are frustrated about sitting in traffic, you might say: "Mommy is really frustrated right now. Please help me calm down by taking 10 deep breaths with me."...